Growing pains for the Miley Cyrus phenom


This picture of Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana) seems to have struck a very odd chord.  At least from my perspective.

Some people have actually called this father/daughter pose "lewd".  I want some of what they are smoking.  Actually, I don’t.  It’s got them all fucked up in the head.

What I see here is a father who appears to have a meaningful relationship with his teenage daughter.  And not a lot of fathers can make that claim.

Me, I kiss and hug my 17 year old daughter every day and my 19 year old son kisses me hello and goodbye – even in front of his friends.  I am PROUD of that.

People who see evil in this lovely photo of a caring father and a loving daughter are seeing a reflection of the evil in their own hearts, as far as I can tell.  I can’t understand why anyone who has a pure heart would have an issue with this photo – or a photo with her with a "naked back" – a picture the press is calling "topless" because that gets more attention.  I am VERY conservative with my daughter (my son as well, for that matter) – still, her bathing suit on the beach shows more than Miley’s "topless" photo.

Personally, I love it when my daughter and I are watching a scary movie and she sits closer to me.  I LIKE being the guy in her life she can trust, and count on, and feel safe with.  I love her being 17 us still have that relationship. I hope we always do.

And I think Karoli (who is my age) put it best in Twitter today, in response to my ramblings about this issue:




And my response to her was, "Me too".

Sometimes we al need our fathers, or or mothers.  Or just a good friend.

Someone to lean on for a bit.

And I see nothing wrong with a daughter leaning on her father.  In fact, I think it is totally fucking awesome.


Miley, if you haven’t learned it yet, learn it now.  What other people think of you should no define you.  And it will not.  Unless you allow it to.



You get the best of both worlds, Miley Cyrus sings in the theme song of her hugely popular Disney Channel show, Hannah Montana. Its a reference to her characters secret double life as both a rock star AND a normal schoolgirl. Offscreen, though, this 15-year-old phenom is starting to learn how hard it really is to have the best of both worlds: as a G-rated Disney superstar AND a real-life, growing teenager with an eye on a long career.

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  1. Rob,

    My daughters and I, although they are still quite young, have a great relationship. We all, all six of us, from 1 year old through 31 (my wife and I are 13 days apart, due on same date, me a little premmy, heh) work hard at being a family. We can sit and watch Dave the Barbarian together and go outside and play in the backyard together.

    I’d be what most people label conservative. I prefer “discerning” and “wise”, ha ha, but anyway. Things will change between me and the girls once they get married (see what i did there, conservative, heh heh), but I will never stop being their Dad. And that means comfort and care and love, like you said from the beginning, and through the end.

    Perhaps this is getting to navel-gazing, but it’s a great thing to see a Dad and his teenage daughter prepared to tastefully take some photos. Too much it’s just singular individuals. This is about family. And that is just awesome.

    (I haven’t seen the other photo, so this comment is entirely skewed towards the image in the post above)

  2. Rob,

    I heard the hype about how shocking the pictures were and must admit that I was suprised when I actually saw them.. I think this announcement is more of a PR stunt driving traffice to the Vanity Fair website than an actual public outrage.

    Next! 😉


  3. Hi Kaylyn…

    Just to clarify, the picture Rob posted above is not the one I get the willies over. The one above is tasteful and touching.

  4. Rob, I’ve been reading and re-reading your post and subsequent comments today trying to form my thoughts into something well thought out. I’m not sure I’ve accomplished that, but here goes:

    I don’t really have a problem with this photo either. What I see is the photographer making sure she looks protected. Isn’t that what Dad’s are for after all? To protect us?

    As for the make-up…I take portrait photography. The make-up could be a number of things, it could simply be lens blur, it could be air brushing done after the fact. However, even if the make-up was put on this way intentionally, in today’s world of Britney’s and Lindsay’s, I don’t mind explaining to my niece about stage make-up.

  5. @Ike – as usual, you present a well thought out argument that I find little fault with. I can state that my issue with the photo shoot didn’t really focus on the “topless” picture – because to me she is pretty damn covered up. But not that I realize the facial makeup is smeared, I can see where that gives pause.

    But the outrage over the picture with her father is what gave me pause. I honestly don’t think there is anything wrong with that picture – except perhaps it makes some fathers uncomfortable because they see their own failings.

    And I am quite confident you already have that relationship with your daughter. It didn’t start at 17 for me and my daughter – it started at love, and trust – and that started from day one.

    Parents need to trust their children, but let them know that with trust comes responsibility – and they need to measure – just like with “Social Networking experiments”. I measure my children every day. Just as they measure me.

  6. Rob, I want to have that relationship with my daughter 12 years from now.

    But today, that photo disturbs me. NOT because of the damned sheet. It’s the trashy-tart makeup she’s wearing. I don’t want my little girl forming images of teen life based on the God-only-knows-what’s-left-to-the-imagination of how her lipstick and mascara got all smeared.

    I’m no prude, but you can’t occupy a position like Miley Inc. does without being cognizant of the consequences. It’s bad enough that 15-year-old girls think they’re too old to read Seventeen… my little girl needs to grow up on her own time and pace. I fear for the little girls who aren’t as vigilant as we are, Rob. Not in a Draconian manner, but in a way that promotes pride and esteem from within the family and not from external cues.