Ever since I was a small child and I was forced to create “I love you” cards for every kid in my class. It was a big lie then, and it is often a big lie now.
I certainly didn’t “love” everyone in my 2nd grade class. Some of them I didn’t even like. But I was forced into the big lie early in life, and grew a distinct distaste for it.
The fact that it is a “Hallmark Holiday” – designed only to separate us from money – to the benefit of huge corporations – doesn’t make me care much for it either.
So my loathing of this day goes way, way back. When I met my now-ex wife in 1981 I made it pretty clear (I thought) while we were dating that “I don’t do Valentine’s Day“. And for 18 years of marriage, I didn’t.
And it was seven years ago tomorrow when I walked into the house after work and my now-ex told me, “I want you to leave”. So I did. The fact it happened on Valentine’s Day certainly doesn’t enamor me to this fake Holiday anymore now then it did when I was in the 2nd grade.
But seriously – I don’t get it – if your relationship is based around an annual “Lemming’s Love Day” then what does that say about your relationship?
Why Feb 14th? Why not June the 2nd?
Don’t let the media/merchants tell you when, where, or how to show your love. If you need a “Holiday” to force your partner into a gesture of caring then you probably need to rethink who your partner is.
If you love someone, they should know it every day. Not just tomorrow. Tomorrow is a meaningless page on the calendar that is quickly turned and forgotten.
Today is more important.