Offended, maybe a bit. But I don’t expect anyone to understand me!

I was accused this evening of pandering to people like Robert Scoble (more specifically to his wonderful wife Maryam).  And to others as well.  Jason Calacanis, Hugh McLeod, Mike Arrington, Steve Clayton, Ponzi and Chris Pirrillo, even Mark Cuban, etc.

Someone did a lot of homework.  They analyzed my comments history (well, analyzed may be too strong of a word!) and deduced that I was sucking up to a lot of “A-Listers”.  They looked at my Facebook friends, and who I “Twittered” with.

I think they picked me because of my relationship with Yuvi (someone that really understand statistics and data!)

Bullshit.  I’ve never asked any of these people for anything for myself.  In fact, I have asked few of them for anything.  But let’s take them in order, just for fun.

Robert Scoble – I have talked to him on the phone, on various chats he was hosting, and on Skype.  So have a thousand (ten thousand?) other people.  I NEVER asked him for a favor, large or small.  I DID try working with his employer a few times – but things always fell through.

Maryam Scoble:  I sent her a birthday present.  I love her to death and have never met her.  She is hard not to like, and I felt like letting her know I appreciated her cyber-friendship.  I DID use my connection with her once to ensure that my emails to Podtech Management were actually being received – but I didn’t ask for a favor.  I also told her that my goal is to hire her husband one day.  And that’s still a goal.

Jason Calacanis:  I read his blog, like the podcast/videocast (whatever) and sent him a total of one direct email text message – not to benefit me, but to benefit someone far away.  A little searching of this blog, or via Google should fill in the gaps.  Jason has no freaking clue who I am, and I have never asked him for any favors.

Hugh McLeod: Crap. I DID ask Hugh for something – a one word change to a business card drawing so I could use it for a business card that suited me more.  Hugh obliged me.  I now  have a business card with that cartoon.  The original and the one Hugh did for me are both here.

But that is the extent of what I have asked Hugh for.

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Mike Arrington: I tried to get Techcrunch interested in a startup I am involved in.  Mike was overseas at the time and my email was answered by someone else.  Nothing ever came of it, and I never talked to Mike directly about it.

Steve Clayton:  Yes, I asked Steve for a favor.  But it wasn’t for myself, and I can’t disclose what it is at this time.  Besides that I’ve only shared with him my experiences with Microsoft.  I assume he finds them useful.  In any case, he is always polite about it!  I won’t profit off the HUGE favor even if Steve can deliver on it.  Except I will get a warm fuzzy feeling if he delivers. 

Ponzi and Chris Pirillo:  I like them both, although I haven’t met them.  I bought them a couple of small wedding presents and Ponzi sent me back a very nice thank you note.  I probably have commented on Chris’s blog, and I watch his live videos and read his blog.  I never asked him for anything, never met him, and doubt I will.  I just don’t to the West Coast.  Been there, done that.  While Chris was in High School :).  Doesn’t mean I couldn’t congratulate them with some small gifts on such a big day though.  I wanted and received nothing in return.

Mark Cuban: Yes, I’ve commented on his blog a bit.  I like how he thinks about the day after tomorrow, or the media distribution mechanism after the next mechanism.  He’s a smart guy.  I like reading the blogs of really smart people.  If that’s pandering then so be it!  Never met Mark, never asked him for anything.  I have talked to him, but he won’t remember it.  Probably because I never asked him for anything!

What is really funny about this is that someone (yes I know who, but I won’t give them the satisfaction of linking to/naming them) went through all of the trouble to find these connections I have (no matter how tenuous they are).  But being a Valleywag wanna-be they decided to use the information for evil, instead of using it to understand the new global marketplace, the shrinking world, etc etc.

But it’s clear to me that this is why blogging is getting old to so many people.  So much is turned negative, when it should be very positive.

The fact that I work out of my house in San Antonio, TX and have had some interaction with all of these people (and a lot more not listed) is amazing.  The fact I have never met anyone I discussed in this post – not face to face – but many of them I consider to be friends – THAT is amazing.

Why not focus on the relationships I am building, instead of trying to paint them as usury?  Isn’t that the really cool story?

Perhaps not.  *sigh*