I talked to an ex-coworker today. He and I were both divorced single parents when we met. His children were much younger than mine – but he recently got re-married. He is concerned that I haven’t.
I could give a lot of reasons why I haven’t gotten re-married. My kids are old enough now that it makes more sense for me to wait a couple years – they will both be on their own then.
I’ve not wanted to bring another person into their lives. I thought we were doing well enough just keeping our shit together without inviting in someone else.
But honestly – I just haven’t fallen in love with anyone – and it is that simple. One day, I hope to fall in love again, but it just hasn’t happened. I know I haven’t tried to make it happen – I work a lot of hours. And I truly like my life – but that doesn’t mean I want to grow old alone.
But my family and friends really need to stop worrying about me. I am very happy. I like where my life is, and I like where I am in my life.
I have no aversion to women and would certainly love to be in love again.
But you can’t make love happen.
It will. Or it won’t.
I am cool with it either way. I wish my friends and family would understand that.
I don’t need someone else in my life right now. As much as I would enjoy the feeling of being in love again it just isn’t all that important to me right at this time in my life.
I love my kids, I want to raise them right. I love my work, and want to do it right. I am unwilling to give in on either of these passions. And that makes me a hard guy to get to know. Or love.
And for now, I am happy with that.
Be happy for me. Stop worrying about me. Please 🙂 I am a very happy unmarried father of two.
And that won’t be changing anytime soon.