I find this site to be an odd choice for anyone to make. It bills itself as “If you have a relationship problem and donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know where to turn for help, then YouMe.Us is for you! Simply post your issue with relevant photos and start receiving advice from the YouMe.Us community.”
It is clearly targeted to teenage girls (yet one of the random images shown on the welcome page displays a picture of what appears to be a teenage girl (although zooming in on the image shows a wedding ring – I wonder if that was done intentionally?) picking petals off a flower – “He loves me… He loves me not…”
This is absolutely the last area of social networking I would want to be involved with – the love lives of minors. I actually find it almost mind-numbing that anyone would consider this a “safe” business to be in, especially since users are suggested to “Simply post your issue with relevant photos and start receiving advice from the YouMe.Us community.” Photos too? Gads, it gets worse!
In their “Help” section they have a question called, “What Issues are Appropriate?”. The examples baffle me:
From the site:
3. What issues are appropriate?
Any relationship question or issue is welcome in the YouMe.Us community. The key is to phrase your questions in a clear, concise format so you receive the best possible advice.
Examples of good questions:
Should I break up with Tommy? (Yes/No)
Where should I take my date before the prom? (Multiple Choice)
WhatÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s the best way to impress my boyfriend? (Open-Ended)
Issues with photos receive many more votes and feedback than issues without photos. Be sure to add a photo to every multiple-choice answer, plus up to three additional photos for every issue or response.
I expected the answer to the question was based on the question being about what kind of content is appropriate – but it’s really a different question. They should have asked: “What Issues will get me the highest rating?”
- We DO keep both personal and non-personal information.
- We wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t bother you unless you want us to.
- We wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t let anyone else bother you unless you want them to.
- You can always change or delete any of your personal information.
- Even if you allow us to bother you, you can always stop us at a later date.
- We wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t collect or keep any information about children.
- We wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t share your information, unless the police or the U.S. government forces us to.
6. PROTECTING THE PRIVACY OF CHILDREN UNDER 13
No one under age 13 is permitted to provide any personal information to the Service or to use the Service. Service Provider does not knowingly collect any personal information from any child under the age of 13. Before registering for the Service, users are required to agree to the Service Terms which include an acknowledgement that the user is 13 years of age or older. By participating in the Service, the user is representing that he or she is 13 years of age or older and agrees to the Terms. If you are worried about your childrenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s activities or their privacy on the Service, please contact our Privacy Department at info(at)youme.us.
Terms & Conditions in Plain English:
- The content on our site is ours unless otherwise noted Ã¢â‚¬â€œ so donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t steal it.
- DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t get mad at us if you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t like what you see or read on our site.
- If something bad happens because of something written or posted on our site, you agree NOT to sue us!
- DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t do or post anything illegal on our site.
- Anything you post on our site becomes ours, so donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t post anything you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t own.
- We wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t share your personally-identifiable information without your permission.
- We arenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t responsible for any links to or from our site.
- If we donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t like you, we can prevent you from accessing our site.
- We hope children donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t use our site Ã¢â‚¬â€œ but if they do, itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not our fault.
- You agree NOT to sue us!
- DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t lose your password.
- If anything in this document or on our site is illegal in your country, you can ask, but not force us to change it.
Hmmm. Look at number 9. If I am a ten year old, does this tell me I can’t use the site? Does it tell me what can happen to me if I do (not even a warning, “We’ll tell your folks”)? They assume no liability and even worse no responsibility for ANYTHING, yet they are presenting a site that absolutely is catered towards children.
9. USE BY CHILDREN UNDER 13
Simple – that’s their target audience, and they know damn well it is.
Finally, here’s an example of the “advise” given by one user to another:
Sounds like you’ve already been nice and sometimes we have to get a little n a s t y to get results… Talk to him sweet (like he’s a baby) and if he doesn’t respond escalate the conversation. If he’s a good boy and responds then reward him with sex. Always works for me! 🙂
Does this sound like a site you want your 15 year old daughter to hang out on? To create a profile? To share personal information?